Meditation for Mums

meditation for mumsMost mums are affected by stress at some time in their lives. This is why meditation for mums is very important, particularly when young children are involved. A balanced diet and a healthful lifestyle can be very helpful in managing the symptoms of this common condition.

SOME COMMON SYMPTOMS: There are various warning signs of stress such as
irritability, anxiety, tension headaches, muscular aches and pains, general tiredness, and depression.

COMMON SKIN CONDITIONS: Many mums under stress often suffer from eczema or psoriasis, but this can also be a symptom of digestive problems.

OTHER PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS: Sometimes if the mum is under extreme stress, she may suffer from heart palpitations, excessive sweating or even irritable bowel syndrome. In this case it is wise to seek the advice of a health care practitioner, as well as being involved in some form of meditation for mums.

WHAT CAUSES STRESS? The most common causes of stress for mums involves having to go to work when they would rather be at home with their children, money worries about not meeting the mortgage payments, and the relationship with their partner. Any of the previously mentioned problems cause cause a huge amount of stress. Unexpected events such as  the death of a loved one, losing a job, or moving are major sources of stress. Sometimes the stress becomes too much to handle and divorce can rear its ugly head, causing even more stress.

OTHER CAUSES OF STRESS: Naughty children who constantly try to prevent mums leaving for work on time; then there are such things as minor irritations such as traffic jams, which probably wouldn’t be stressful if the mum could leave for work on time.  Being late for a meeting can also be stressful.

 SO WHAT IS STRESS? The body’s response to stressful situations is to produce adrenaline and other stress hormones to prepare the body for “fight or flight.” As we no longer have to “fight” as such as our ancestors did, nonetheless, there is still a strong response that causes these hormones to affect the metabolic rate, heart rate and blood pressure, putting the body into a heightened or “stressed” state so that it is ready to cope with danger. Although short bursts of stress are not harmful, long-term stress can lead to a build-up of these hormones, which can have a damaging effect on the physical body.

MEDITATION FOR MUMS: Some ways mums can cope with stress include: meeting with friends, reading spiritual information, walking, and gardening. Exercise helps mums to relax, so maybe try a yoga class or a tai chi class. Swimming or dancing are other stress relievers. However, the greatest reliever of stress is meditation for mums. Even if you haven’t meditated before, start by sitting quietly for 10 minutes twice a day. When you get used to doing “nothing”, try watching your thoughts. What type of thoughts do you hold in your mind? Work thoughts, thoughts of your children, relationship thoughts, food thoughts, angry thoughts, peaceful thoughts? Once you have discovered what you think about most, then you can begin to: a) change the thoughts to more positive ones if the thoughts are negative and b) begin to change the positive ones into a higher light frequency and c) fill you whole body with the higher light frequency twice a day for the 10  minute periods.

 WHAT ELSE TO DO: Watch your diet. Eat plenty of whole grains, fruits and vegetables. In other words, have well-balanced, regular meals. Soon, you’ll be feeling like a normal mum once again.

What is a Mystery School?

canstockphoto2759900Most people have never heard of a mystery school, but love a good mystery, as it is stimulating to the brain centres; those communities of intelligence that inhabit the physical brain. One indication of this fact is the tremendous sale of novels that deal with mystery, fantasy or science fiction, and lately the books on spiritual mysteries. Believe it or not, detective stories the best sellers of fiction. This is not particularly a present-day tendency. The great mysteries of literature have continued to be popular since their original writing. Today, even Sherlock Holmes has been modernized and made into a film.

In the last fifty years or so there has been a literal explosion of knowledge on the planet, and of course, this has created even more mysteries. Not all of these mysteries are solved in the mind of every adult. The mystery is enhanced when no one is able to give a better explanation than his own. Mystery, then, has its appeal because it is applicable to the unknown. It is not so much the particular manifestation that is of concern as it is the occurrence of something completely unknown. Man seeks an explanation for those things that are not understood, and he tries to change the unknown into the known. The instinct of curiosity becomes stimulated when he is approached or brought face to face with any kind of unknown.

In the early history of humanity, the philosophies and religions of many races and groups of people became closely related to the great mysteries of birth, life, and death, and life after death. That was the last of these great mysteries to solve: Why was it that life could cease as suddenly as it had begun insofar as this physical manifestation was concerned? What happens after we pass through the veil? Many religions in their doctrines and practices are closely related to the mysteries of birth, life, and death, but have no answers as to what happens after death.

Also, we see God’s handiwork in the heavens. Just how vast is the universe? How many other universes are there? It was from the contemplation of these great mysteries that groups of individuals who studied them from the philosophical and religious approach began to set up schools of thought known as mystery schools. These schools were closed to all but the true seeker of wisdom and truth.

From them, in turn have sprung the philosophies, philosophical schools, and much of the foundation of the science of the present day. In the philosophy and religion of humans to date, however, the final solutions to these mysteries have not yet been written. But our great thinkers and scientists are getting much closer to amazing discoveries all the time.

When humans no longer contemplate the unknown, when all that is now unknown is known, then humanity will have advanced to a different level of comprehension and development and will live in a different dimension. Until that state is reached, much that is still a mystery will remain a mystery to the ordinary person, perhaps not the thinker, though.

When man sees clearly the solution to these problems, he will have advanced to a point where possibly other mysteries will take the place of those that he now endeavors to solve. And so he will continue in his growth by solving one mystery after another until the mystery of the Logos becomes comprehensible and he is actually absorbed as a part thereof, and becomes one with the source of his being.

The mystery schools are formed to teach the ancient wisdom in a more modern format to those who seek answers about life’s mysteries. Some subjects relate to meditation, the force centres or chakras, symbolism, karma, reincarnation, how the Logos projects out of itself into physical incarnation. There are hundreds of subjects of deep intrigue taught in the mystery schools of today. The Sirian Mystery School, part of the College of Esoteric Education, offers a variety of practical courses to assist those who seek the deeper meaning of life.

What is a Disciple?

The only difference between a disciple or metaphysician and the person in the street is that the metaphysician has become aware of his relationship to his Higher Self or Soul and refuses to let the stress of daily living shut him off from the source of his being. To be constantly aware of this relationship requires devotion to his Soul, as well as the guidance of his teachers, both internal and external, as well as circumstances pointing in a spiritual direction.

Looking at the outer circumstances of life on earth, it appears to be a history of the fight for dominance between the positive and negative poles. We see construction, destruction, power struggles, and peaceful resolutions. On the surface, it appears to go nowhere; it is like observing a movie containing a series of fortunate or unfortunate events that may benefit culture or may equally destroy it according to the writer’s whim. So, who is the writer of the history of humanity? The ones who win the wars.

There is another history, however, which has to do with life on earth in an inner sense. There is not the evidence of duality here; there is no construction and destruction as in the outer sense but rather the spiraling of man’s inner powers toward balance and harmony.

The outer history is concerned with time and the inner with dimensions outside of time. Outer history is full of past and future, of anticipations, anxieties, and remorse over failure. There appears to be no rest; only the stresses and anxieties of a flurry of activity in time. There is also death.

The inner account begins outside of time. Every “moment” touches the Soul. There is no rush toward a Utopia of the future, for Utopia may be experienced now outside the restrictions of time. It can be experienced through attunement when the body and physical consciousness move into an altered state of consciousness. There need be no awareness of time at all as one begins to exist in the eternal now.

Simply utilizing mental realization of the inner history with its experience outside of time is not enough to bring peace of mind in this hectic world; it requires the development of consciousness in a different way. Many experience such states randomly, but they only seem to occur in flashes and at rare moments because of the imbalances at the deeper levels of the individual. Another reason is that nothing permanent has been established through spiritual discipline.

Before permanent results can be achieved many things are necessary. They fall into three general categories:

1) The need to improve the physical body through diet and exercise, so that the body becomes elastic.

2) The need to become emotionally balanced, so that peace and harmony are dominant in the life instead of stress and anxiety.

3) The need of a precise method of spiritual practice through mental discipline, so that the higher frequencies will be more easily tolerated.

Improvement in the physical body is the first requirement, for the body forms the basis of acquiring inner growth. The body must be capable of attaining a state of rest so as not to interfere with the inner psychological activity; thus, the need for good dietary habits and good exercise programs. A nervous half-starved organism, depleted of essential nutrients, through fanatical programs cannot learn to concentrate or to meditate correctly. Posture is also important, for physical control is a part of the technique of centering. Even walking every day is an excellent exercise for the body.

An emotionally balanced consciousness is the second requirement, for nothing destroys the possibility of attunement like faulty emotional functioning. Meeting this necessity may be more difficult than the first, for our society condones the use of destructive emotional forms. War and racial hatred seems the norm these days as a means of media entertainment. No one realizes how detrimental to the delicate subtle fabric of the inner being this actually is. It is emotional contamination of the worst kind.

Of course, it is possible to live with all this, but it requires a constant “guarding of the mind” so that one does not fall prey to the negativity. People with a wealth of spiritual knowledge are often unable to use it practically because they are wrongly involved emotionally with the affairs that affect their lives. Constant practice and an intense desire to be free are necessary to become emotionally harmonious and balanced.

Intelligence is somewhat better understood as a part of the consciousness than the emotions. At this time on the planet, we have mass education and for good or ill everyone has come to believe in it. In itself, though, education is little more than a collection of facts that may be useful in earning a living but not in mastering the spiritual life. It is with the latter that the metaphysician is most concerned.

The chief use of intelligence is not so much in becoming learned as in being able to direct and integrate the different aspects of one’s being. Only when the emotions and intellect work together can advances be made in the inner life. It is possible to know a thing without having feeling for it. This is one of the unfortunate aspects of our scientific world: By persistent overuse of the analytical method, most have lost the power of intuition.

Of course, logic and the analytical method are indispensable to our three dimensional world, it is true, but if we are really to connect with the soul qualities and move into the higher frequency band, we must become silent and listen to the voiceless voice of the Soul. The intellect must be quiet in order that the bright power of the Soul may begin to shine through us.

How can one know the extent to which his life is being directed by the soul qualities he is attempting to use? The answer to such a question depends upon personal and inner capabilities as well as upon the needs faced by the self in certain circumstances. A look at the lives of many illumined individuals shows that they lived in very unusual and difficult outward circumstances and were sometimes put to death or persecuted for their beliefs. To such people the art of metaphysics owes its existence. Not many of us will be placed in similar conditions or attain similar stature. There may come the realization that how well one attunes with the Soul, the Inner Master or Higher Self has an important bearing upon his daily affairs. This is an important stage in development. From this time on, the mere acquisition of facts, the reading of books, and the hearing of opinions, lose their primary status and become only a means to further the constant practice of attunement with the deeper parts of the self.

One of the most important rewards is the improvement in focusing or the ability to concentrate. This not only makes the application of metaphysical disciplines progressively easier but also gives an increased understanding to everything in life.

In the beginning, it was said that the historical life, relating to construction and destruction, and the inner life, relating to peace, harmony and balance, lie poles apart. This approach to life must become integrated and organic, the higher must be related to the lower in such a way that the former actually transforms the latter. Nothing can do this so well for modern man as true spiritual discipline found in metaphysical practices.

However, man himself will only recognize the need for this application when he reaches an advanced stage of development. First, the individual must leave himself and return to himself transformed. He must train himself to ‘Integrate his personal consciousness with the Divine Consciousness of his Soul’ to the degree that the personality is completely changed. This means the opportunity for expanded consciousness and awareness; a giving up of the lesser for the greater—and this is when he begins to operate as a world server—a true disciple.

Basic Meditation

Meditation is an adventure into the unknown; basic meditation is not doing anything except going beyond the chatter of the conscious mind and initially delighting in the freedom from thought and emotion. When you achieve this, you actually tap into the glue of the universe which we term love. It is the love that holds the universe together. When you get to this point, you tap into just being. Once you become aware of this state of being, you can remain undisturbed while resting for a period of time or you can remain in this state even while being engaged in other things. This form of meditation teaches you a new way of living; a way of being totally undisturbed even in the centre of chaos. This form of meditation is called being centered. You can be doing other things without losing your feeling of centeredness.

This form of meditation is usually used to allow you to feel calm and relaxed. It also gives you the opportunity to release physical and mental stress. You can also learn to watch your thoughts and the emotions they provoke objectively. When you learn to remain in this state, you will begin to enjoy a different state of awareness. This is the most basic form of meditation.

Dinner Party

iStock_000006695282XSmallWhy not start a new tradition with your friends, by hosting a dinner party every month, and inviting several of you and your mate’s friends to interact in a way that is different and challenging. Set it up as a rotating dinner party and have the couple hosting for that month, be responsible for the readings or the board games, if you don’t want to do readings.

Set up board games that everyone will enjoy, or if you prefer just do Tarot or Angel readings, astrology readings, or pendulum dowsing for each other afterwards. The couple hosting will do the readings on the particular night. If one partner does not wish to do readings, then let that one be responsible for organizing drinks and supper, or keeping other people, who don’t want a reading, entertained in a different way, maybe by having a quiet discussion on a subject you might wish to explore.

This is an excellent way for getting to know people on a totally different level, to hone your communication skills, and at the same time, develop your intuition. Many a person has discovered that they have a real talent in an area that they never even thought about before. This might take a little organizing, but there are now numerous decks of Angel cards, Tarot cards, and cards for developing the intuition.

Spending time with friends at a dinner party is also a great way to reduce stress. When stress is low, couples get along better. This is a wonderful way to interact with each other’s friends as a couple.

 

Publishing eBooks Online

We have just started to publish our college publications online and have discovered many great tools to assist in the process. Our latest ebook is on the Kindle platform and we are really impressed with the ease of publishing your ebook. You can put it up directly as word document. The formatting is a little limited when it comes to pictures but the rest is just great. am loving publishing on Kindle you should try it. If you think you would like to publish your own ebooks online you can check out Kindle here.

Our first books up on the Kindle platform are from our How to… $7 Dollar eBooks range and give great information on relaxing and meditation.

How to Relax 

Kindle CoverThis book will describe how stress affects you, then give you various exercises to assist you to relax. Understanding the metaphysical impact of stress and the importance of relaxation will change your life.

 

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How to Heal through Meditation

How to Heal Through Meditation OrangeHealing has always been on the planet, channeling through different people at different periods of time.
In reality, there is only one healing function, but the way people use it is totally different, and depends on the modality being practiced. However, the energy comes from the same source, regardless of the method used.

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We are excited to have our eBooks available to you and hope they assist you on your journey to the soul.

Life Choices

Meta Relationship ProgramYour life choices are based on your psychological conditioning or what is commonly called your emotional programming. Do you want to know how it adds up? Your life experiences + your choices + your desires + your decisions = your emotional programming. It is important to understand that about 80% of emotional programming normally happens before you are eight years old, and that it is the basis of how you react today.

You can’t change your past, but if you begin to understand why you react today, and not respond, you can break the chains that bind you, and understand more about yourself, and why you interact the way you do with your partner Now, I’d like to help you understand your own emotional programming and life choices and how to respond differently.

You attract the partner into your life who can assist you best with your life lessons, and help you overcome your emotional programming, and bring your shadow side or sub-personalities into the light.

This emotional programming affects how you think and behave as an adult Your life experiences, especially those before you were eight years old, cause you to make certain subconscious decisions about yourself and others, and these decisions in turn, cause you to make certain choices as an adult.

All these choices and the way you behave, is called your emotional baggage or your emotional programming. It is this subconscious emotional baggage or programming that you bring with you into your relationships and this is what is responsible for much of the pain or conflict you feel.

In your journey through your incarnate existence, there would have been certain circumstances, disappointments, rejections, and other negative experiences that caused emotional wounds, and ultimately caused the kind of conditioning or programming we’ve been talking about. It doesn’t matter if the person who hurt you meant to hurt you, or if the disappointments were so many that they caused you to react negatively towards certain people, or even if it really was a negative situation—it depended solely on your interpretation of it.

Just for a moment, imagine a little girl whose father suddenly takes ill and dies. The child can’t understand why daddy isn’t there anymore and she feels totally abandoned, she wants her daddy.  We all know the event of a parent’s death is a natural occurrence, but at such a tender young age, it is interpreted as a very painful experience of abandonment. A child at such a young age doesn’t understand, even though they might know daddy has gone to heaven, and they tend to subconsciously blame the person who caused them pain. So, based on these subconscious decisions made from your childhood wounds, you grew up making certain choices to help you cope. You unconsciously developed emotional habits of response.

Now, this child whose father died, because of the programming in the subconscious mind, will probably attract men who abandon her, even though she may be an extremely beautiful young woman. Deep down is the belief that people she loves will abandon her, and that she will have to look after herself.

Eventually though, she does find someone who really loves her, so she marries. However, every time her husband wants her to open up, or he gets too close, that protective wall she put in place so long ago immediately sets a barrier between them. Unconsciously, she’s still protecting herself; she is still reacting to that little program in the subconscious mind that says “People who love me will leave me—don’t trust them.” Until she understands that and changes the program, she can’t have a healthy relationship with her husband.

Many of your choices and habits are formed to protect you at a different age. In the example above, that girl’s choices were protecting her. They were not meant to harm her or anybody else. They were used as a survival mechanism. If you find something like this happening in your own life today, look back into your own life and see where the hurts, the pain the abandonment, the rejection happened, and work towards clearing it so you make different life choices, and can move forward as a free and happy soul. Marriage is about finding the right partner—it’s about BEING the right partner.

 

 

Our Shadow Side

Screen Shot 2013-09-30 at 11.15.46 PMWhatever parts of ourselves we try to get rid of in our personality, life will bring to us—in the form of people who are exactly like those parts we deny—our shadow side. We will meet people who carry our shadow side and each time we do, these people will be a challenge for us. We will either be strong­ly attracted, or strongly repelled, or some combination of the two. Our partner is usually the one to project our shadow side back to us to help us transform. This doesn’t happen immediately, of course, but usually after about eighteen months or so. If our partner is not destined to help us transform through the shadow, then usually it will be one of our difficult children who will do so. If this does not happen in the home life, then you can be sure there will be someone at work who will project to us our own shadow side.

The shadow, or these repressed aspects, sometimes called sub-personalities or selves) are like mis­siles, aimed at us by the intelligence that created us, and they always find their mark; there is no escaping them. There is just the challenge to learn that lesson, to integrate it, then move on to the next experience. Bit by painful bit we can overcome the shadow, or the repressed aspects that are a part of us.

We need to realize that whatever we deny is what we attract. This is the basic law of relationship. We will be moved by spirit in a particular direction and “fall in love” with someone who has the capability to push us to complete ourselves, to become all that we can become in this lifetime. They are not consciously aware of this, it works at the soul level, and that level senses what we are missing and then pushes (or pulls) us to fill the vacu­um. What we are missing is what we have denied or pushed down into the dark depths of the psyche. If you can think of relationship as the vehicle for completing yourself, then you will see each of the people who carry aspects of your shadow, as your teachers.

Until you become aware of this basic law of the psyche, you will usually see the shadow or your denied aspects as the enemy, and there will be times when they will cause you much pain. A great deal of the pain that people experience in relationship is based on the fact that they have no understanding that they are carrying each other’s shadow side, and mirroring it back to the other person. This is true in all relationships. At first, you may find the shadow irresistible when you see it in your partner, and then, after a while, you will usually find it impossible to live with, because it really pushes your buttons, simply because you don’t understand that it is really that part of yourself that you need to look at.

The people in your life who carry aspects of your shadow are your teachers, giving you an opportunity to bring your shadow into the light. When you realize this, life and relationships look different. This is true of everybody in your life, not only your partner, but it is usually your primary relationship that carries the biggest charge. These apparently irreconcilable differences in relationships, mirrored back to you by your partner, are opportunities for the greatest personal growth. Your current personality does not like what it sees in the mirroring process, because it can get very painful, but as you learn to make use of the larger perspective that contains opportunities for soul growth and transformation, then you will begin to see the world through different eyes.  You begin to see the value of your shadow side that your partner carries, and projects back to you.  You get a sense of what you have pushed down and denied. As you reclaim those denied aspects of yourself, you will begin to transform and usually reclaim your relationship. The partner who caused you so much pain before, suddenly begins to look just fine again, and your relationship is able to move forward on a higher level.

 

 

 

The Different Archetypes or Inner Selves

Screen Shot 2013-08-11 at 3.51.37 PMYou are not a single entity and neither am I.  Each of us is made up of a set of reincarnating facets that contain the different archetypes, or inner selves. These selves are the building blocks of the psyche. They are independent facets and each has a distinct personality. Each of these selves is like an actual person living inside of us. Each has its own history, its own way of looking at life and each has its own way of living in the world, and operates through its own programming.

How you will behave in any particular situation will depend upon the inner self that is in charge at that moment; this is normal; there is nothing strange about it. Perhaps you have inside you a critical self, a demanding self, a supportive self, a pleaser self, a pusher self, an inner child, and so on. All these selves are really part of the faceted structure of the personality you have adopted for this incarnation to help you experience your life lessons. They are formed by the balance of the four elemental principles, of fire, air, water and earth, and whether the polarity is negative or positive at the time.

Do you have days, or even moments at work, or at home when you know that you are completely in charge, when things seem to flow smoothly and the right answers are there when you need them? And at other times you feel awkward, and everything seems wrong; it is as if somebody-else inside of you is running the show. Decisions are difficult to make, you have an insecure feeling, you question everything you do, and nothing feels exactly right.

Actually, somebody else is running the show. There are two different facets or inner selves operating at these two different times, The first is someone who is both in charge and decisive, The other is an inner critic who criticizes everything you do or say, and makes you feel awkward and insecure. If you are aware of your personality type, it is certainly helpful in working out which element, and subsequently which inner self is dominant at the time.

Here is an example of two different selves as they operate in two different parts of someone’s life. Take for example, an intelligent, attractive, thirty-five year-old lawyer who specializes in mediation. She is an independent person who worked hard to get to this point in her life, she worked hard to get her degree, she never complains, and is now a partner in a highly respected law firm.

She loves her partner dearly, and is devoted to her family and has many friends. But she is literally one person at work, and a totally different person at home because different facets of her personality (different selves) operate in each of these circumstances. If you saw her at work you would be impressed with her ability to deal with complex situations and sometimes, quite angry clients. She has an ability to consider the needs of others, but she keeps her eye on the objective facts of the situation and deals with it accordingly.  When she is at work she is totally positive, and her ability to see facts clearly helps her to make the right decisions. She is totally professional and dispassionate in this situation.

However, when she gets home, things are different; she becomes more personal and emotional, easily influenced by the feelings and needs of her family and friends. She wants everybody to love and appreciate her. At home her decision making and her actions are deeply affected by the people she loves, and the objectivity and professionalism she uses at work are nowhere to be found. Again, these are two different selves; they are operating in two different situations. The first self is one we would call an impersonal self and the sec­ond is a personal self.

Now think about how different it is to relate to some­one as the selves in charge begin to shift. These selves can be responsible or irresponsible, protective or attacking, nurturing or needy, controlling or passive, self-assured or self-critical, supportive or judg­mental, loving or hateful. There are all kinds of possibilities and they are all in each of us!

When we know about these different selves and the elemental influence, much about our relationships becomes clear; when we do not, we are easily hurt, confused and angered by our partners. We often feel betrayed by them, and bemoan their lack of consistency, and question both their truthfulness and their underlying motivations.

When we do not know about the different selves, we judge our partner or we become critical of our partner and even openly criticize him or her. Or perhaps we become withdrawn or depressed. Sometimes we even become critical of ourselves and worry about why we ruin all our relationships. Some people feel so hopeless about relationships that they decide it just is not worth the bother.

Well, it definitely is worth the bother, and if you begin to recognize the different archetypes or inner selves, and learn about what really goes on in your relationships, it will open up a whole new dimension for you. When you know about the archetypes within each of us, and how the elements influence us through the different personality types, changes and inconsistencies are no longer a mystery, and you begin to recognize that your partner has not changed at all. It is, instead, an archetype or some of the inner selves in charge of your partner’s interaction that have changed. When you become aware of this, you will find the negative facets will begin to dim, the more positive ones will become enhanced, and your relationship will become more spiritual.

 

Transmutation

canstockphoto13816906Transformation and transmutation are necessary if we are to move forward and function as a different species. If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, you may have shut yourself off many times and you may not even notice the emotional pain you are now putting yourself through.  And because of all the issues that have been pushed down and shut off, you attract those situations into your life to help you resolve them now. Energy will not be repressed; it must express itself and it does this by projecting onto the nearest person who can mirror it back to you, which is usually your partner. It can also happen with your business associates, friends and children. In other words, your shadow side projects itself onto a person who will mirror it back to you to make you look at those issues that you have repressed. Of course you’ll hate this process—everyone does until they realize exactly what is going on.

Sometimes when you know you should take a leap forward in your life…and you won’t…or you can’t, a higher source will step in and take over. And you will complain that fate has dished up this or that unpleasant experience for you, and you will ask “Why me?” or “Why are you doing this to me?”

If you haven’t achieved a relative degree of self-mastery or refuse to look at those things that are presented to you, either through the opportunities or coincidences in your life, fate will step in and be your teacher. No one is allowed to stagnate for too long.

Maybe you’re in a job that is not suiting your higher purpose, and you know you should be looking elsewhere; but it’s comfortable, the pay is good, so you stay…until one day the boss calls you in and tells you that you’re fired. Or, you’re in a relationship that’s just not working, but you stay because it’s convenient, until one day your partner tells you they’ve found somebody else. Fate steps in and forces you to take the next step forward to help you change because you can’t do it yourself. Fate can also allow a serious illness to shake you up. That really makes you take stock of your life and you are forced to change and then its scary because you have to confront issues that you’ve pushed down deep into your sub-conscious mind; you’ve ignored all the opportunities that have been placed in front of you to help you…and now you’re being forced to look.  How many times have you heard of people overcoming a serious illness and then taking up something or doing something that they never would have done if they hadn’t got sick?

We don’t like change. We like to sit with our habit patterns, it feels comfortable but it also leads to stagnation. The only thing permanent in this universe is change. The purpose of negative experiences is to disturb, disrupt and to destroy so change can promote further growth. Think about the renovation of an old building for a moment. Wallpaper is ripped off, the insides are pulled out etc. Everything is replaced until not much of the old is recognized. But look at the new structure, it looks fabulous. And so, it is the same with us. We don’t like the process of transmutation, the changes hurt, but they are sometimes necessary to allow us to get to the next level, and those beings that oversee humanity assist as much as they are able without taking the necessary lessons away. When I look back on my life, I find that the times of greatest personal growth happened through the periods of greatest crisis.