Spending quality time together is crucial to the development of any relationship; remember to take time for love. This time can also be spent with friends, just dining out together or with others, perhaps attending some sporting event together, or merely cuddling up together while watching a favorite movie at home. The most important thing to remember is to spend some time together; take time for love. It is not so much the activity that is important, it is the fact that you are together, doing something that you both enjoy. Of course it is also important to have time to be in your own space. In today’s hectic world, most people lead very busy schedules so it can be difficult to allocate time for your partner, as well as all the other things that demand your attention, such as work, errands and shopping, your family, the home, as well as trying to fit in a social activity plus activities for the children if you have them. So, yes, finding time for your mate can be difficult; but did you take time for love when you were courting? Of course, you did! You made time then, and you can make time now. Just as you would schedule a meeting on your calendar, show some courtesy in the relationship by scheduling time to spend with each other, and no excuses unless you have some unexpected emergency.
When you fell in love, you probably didn’t want to stay apart. Falling in love, as opposed to loving, is one of the most prevalent forms of projection in human society. It is what makes the world go round. It is nature’s way of bringing couples together to ensure the continuation of the species. When we “fall in love,” we experience the projection of some ideal archetypal part of ourselves onto another, who acts as a mirror, and plays the part out for us as the receiver for that ideal. The energy imposes on the receiver a range of behavioral patterns and emotional responses, all nourished by the psychological expectations of the person projecting the archetype.
So falling in love is being magnetically attracted to a person who has the parts that are resonant with an ideal archetypal part of ourselves. You have heard the expression, “like attracts like” so this is what is happening. It is really loving a part of yourself, which the projection process places on the another being who, if they are receptive, reciprocate, and mirror back to us that ideal, so then we have what we call, “the lovers.” The danger here of course is that they may start off as a perfect example of the Lovers portrayed on the Tarot trump number 6, but can quite easily degenerate into Tarot card number fifteen, the Devil, if you don’t take time for love.
To avoid this happening, the quality time you spend with your partner, showing kindness and compassion in all situations, will reap its own rewards.
Watch out for tomorrow’s post on ‘Personal Space Within Relationships’