Even though it is important to spend quality time together, it is equally important to have personal space within the relationship. It is important to give the other partner time to do something they like. If your mate loves to play golf but you have no desire to walk around a golf course hitting little white balls, or if you like to go to the movies, but your mate is not a movie buff and would rather do something different, then encourage each other to take time for your own personal space within the relationship. Establish a set time for this very purpose, if possible. You might not be able to do it every week, but make it at least once a month, and mark it out on the calendar so you know what to plan for. For example, if you don’t yet have children, you could make every last Friday night in the month, a time for girl’s and boy’s night out, where the females can catch up with their girlfriends, and the men can enjoy a night out with the boys.
Don’t mistake me here; this is not a time to date other people, but a time to enjoy preferred activities with other friends. Remember that trust is important in your relationship, and you will probably find that a fresh spark comes into your relationship as you will have different topics to discuss. However, If you try this, and then drill your partner to see what they did, whom they were with, and where they went, then the exercise has failed, and your personal space within the relationship will only turn into jealousy. If you don’t feel spiritually mature enough to try this, then don’t do it.
So many people don a false front when they come up against circumstances they can’t control or relationships they can’t handle. They wear masks that so gradually become a part of them, that they no longer know where the mask ends, and where they begin; the basic problem being one of rejection. Rejection is one of the most potent thoughts buried deep within the race mind. It surfaces and acts out in people’s lives in numerous ways.
Humanly speaking, nothing has a more profound influence on your behaviour than your inherited temperament. The combination of your parent’s genes and chromosomes at conception, which determined your basic temperament nine months before you drew breath, is largely responsible for your actions, reactions and emotional responses. This is because, prior to birth, you chose the parents who could give you those exact traits to help you develop and grow through the various experiences that you have chosen to encounter on your journey through the earth plane phase of your existence.
It will be your temperament that will allow you to have personal space within the relationship or not. I will be writing about this in more detail as we proceed through the articles.
Watch out for tomorrow’s post on ‘The Power of Touch’