Basic Meditation

Meditation is an adventure into the unknown; basic meditation is not doing anything except going beyond the chatter of the conscious mind and initially delighting in the freedom from thought and emotion. When you achieve this, you actually tap into the glue of the universe which we term love. It is the love that holds the universe together. When you get to this point, you tap into just being. Once you become aware of this state of being, you can remain undisturbed while resting for a period of time or you can remain in this state even while being engaged in other things. This form of meditation teaches you a new way of living; a way of being totally undisturbed even in the centre of chaos. This form of meditation is called being centered. You can be doing other things without losing your feeling of centeredness.

This form of meditation is usually used to allow you to feel calm and relaxed. It also gives you the opportunity to release physical and mental stress. You can also learn to watch your thoughts and the emotions they provoke objectively. When you learn to remain in this state, you will begin to enjoy a different state of awareness. This is the most basic form of meditation.

The Different Archetypes or Inner Selves

Screen Shot 2013-08-11 at 3.51.37 PMYou are not a single entity and neither am I.  Each of us is made up of a set of reincarnating facets that contain the different archetypes, or inner selves. These selves are the building blocks of the psyche. They are independent facets and each has a distinct personality. Each of these selves is like an actual person living inside of us. Each has its own history, its own way of looking at life and each has its own way of living in the world, and operates through its own programming.

How you will behave in any particular situation will depend upon the inner self that is in charge at that moment; this is normal; there is nothing strange about it. Perhaps you have inside you a critical self, a demanding self, a supportive self, a pleaser self, a pusher self, an inner child, and so on. All these selves are really part of the faceted structure of the personality you have adopted for this incarnation to help you experience your life lessons. They are formed by the balance of the four elemental principles, of fire, air, water and earth, and whether the polarity is negative or positive at the time.

Do you have days, or even moments at work, or at home when you know that you are completely in charge, when things seem to flow smoothly and the right answers are there when you need them? And at other times you feel awkward, and everything seems wrong; it is as if somebody-else inside of you is running the show. Decisions are difficult to make, you have an insecure feeling, you question everything you do, and nothing feels exactly right.

Actually, somebody else is running the show. There are two different facets or inner selves operating at these two different times, The first is someone who is both in charge and decisive, The other is an inner critic who criticizes everything you do or say, and makes you feel awkward and insecure. If you are aware of your personality type, it is certainly helpful in working out which element, and subsequently which inner self is dominant at the time.

Here is an example of two different selves as they operate in two different parts of someone’s life. Take for example, an intelligent, attractive, thirty-five year-old lawyer who specializes in mediation. She is an independent person who worked hard to get to this point in her life, she worked hard to get her degree, she never complains, and is now a partner in a highly respected law firm.

She loves her partner dearly, and is devoted to her family and has many friends. But she is literally one person at work, and a totally different person at home because different facets of her personality (different selves) operate in each of these circumstances. If you saw her at work you would be impressed with her ability to deal with complex situations and sometimes, quite angry clients. She has an ability to consider the needs of others, but she keeps her eye on the objective facts of the situation and deals with it accordingly.  When she is at work she is totally positive, and her ability to see facts clearly helps her to make the right decisions. She is totally professional and dispassionate in this situation.

However, when she gets home, things are different; she becomes more personal and emotional, easily influenced by the feelings and needs of her family and friends. She wants everybody to love and appreciate her. At home her decision making and her actions are deeply affected by the people she loves, and the objectivity and professionalism she uses at work are nowhere to be found. Again, these are two different selves; they are operating in two different situations. The first self is one we would call an impersonal self and the sec­ond is a personal self.

Now think about how different it is to relate to some­one as the selves in charge begin to shift. These selves can be responsible or irresponsible, protective or attacking, nurturing or needy, controlling or passive, self-assured or self-critical, supportive or judg­mental, loving or hateful. There are all kinds of possibilities and they are all in each of us!

When we know about these different selves and the elemental influence, much about our relationships becomes clear; when we do not, we are easily hurt, confused and angered by our partners. We often feel betrayed by them, and bemoan their lack of consistency, and question both their truthfulness and their underlying motivations.

When we do not know about the different selves, we judge our partner or we become critical of our partner and even openly criticize him or her. Or perhaps we become withdrawn or depressed. Sometimes we even become critical of ourselves and worry about why we ruin all our relationships. Some people feel so hopeless about relationships that they decide it just is not worth the bother.

Well, it definitely is worth the bother, and if you begin to recognize the different archetypes or inner selves, and learn about what really goes on in your relationships, it will open up a whole new dimension for you. When you know about the archetypes within each of us, and how the elements influence us through the different personality types, changes and inconsistencies are no longer a mystery, and you begin to recognize that your partner has not changed at all. It is, instead, an archetype or some of the inner selves in charge of your partner’s interaction that have changed. When you become aware of this, you will find the negative facets will begin to dim, the more positive ones will become enhanced, and your relationship will become more spiritual.

 

Let go of Fear!

Screen Shot 2014-08-23 at 3.34.56 pmLets look at this—why do you get sick—many students of Metaphysics are wondering why it is sometimes that sickness still occurs to those who have been meditating for a long time. A lot of it deals with fear. Learn to let go of fear! It would be better to look at sickness or illness as an opportunity to clear old states of consciousness, or a purging that takes place to rid the body of impurities. This benefits not only yourself, but the overall planetary consciousness and helps everyone to move up a little higher in consciousness.

Most students don’t make a big deal about their problems; everyone has them and their prime purpose is for learning. We look into the area where the problem is occurring and this can give us a clue as to what is going on in our sphere of consciousness.

Take kidney complaints for example. Like some of the other organs arranged in pairs, kidneys represent something to do with partnerships. Usually we attract people into our lives who represent our shadow side; that is that side of ourselves that we have repressed or pushed down.  This happens as an opportunity for us to look at ourselves, and clear that repressed energy. Those traits we do not like in our partner or other close people are usually the very things we need to look at within ourselves.

The body is a marvelous expression of what is going on in the soul and what needs to be corrected at a deeper level.

Now energy will not be repressed, it must flow through. If we have an energy blockage, we soon find out about it in the form of a mental or emotional upset. If we refuse to deal with it at these levels, eventually it becomes a physical problem, and we are forced to deal with it because it becomes uncomfortable not to do so. If you have problems with your kidneys, it is a possibility that you project your inadequacies and/or your problems onto your partner or someone else close to you because you either can’t or don’t want to look at that which you have repressed. If your partner tries to help you look at these problems, and you are not ready to listen and block out that which you do not want to hear, you may end up having ear problems as well.

A lot of people are still experiencing fear and a fear of physical pain. Even after all the teachings about being a spiritual being inhabiting a physical body, we still have this fear. If you look at the things you fear, you would see that almost all of them are connected with the idea that you are just a body. If you were just a body, there would be many reasons to fear; but if you can see that you inhabit a body then many possibilities open up for you. Do not be just the body. Know that you are in the body and that you can help the body. Shift the pain by dispersing the energy.

When you become serious about meditation, and you are able to achieve a depth in your communication with your Higher Self, then all fear will be lifted from your mind. Just sit there and observe your fear or the effect your problem is having on your body, and immediately let go of fear.  Some very interesting things will happen if you do not get caught up in the emotion of what is going on but simply observe.  The more time you spend in this centre, the more the power of the centre will start to activate. The heart centre is where all fear fades and love is given a chance to grow. To love is to let go of fear.

 

 

Generate Healthy Conversation

dreamstime_1771209If you seem caught in the going nowhere trap, break out of the habit of talking about nothing, and generate healthy conversation. If you are married, especially with children, many times, you may find yourself sitting around the dinner table with the conversation consisting of nothing more than: “Do you like your carrots?” or “I wonder what is on TV tonight?”

It is much better to ask questions showing real interest about what is going on with everyone, and generate healthy conversation with questions and answers: Replace the normal, “Did you have a good day at school?” with “Tell me what you did at school today.” This should certainly generate healthy conversation between you and your children, and then you can help them with any difficulties they may have encountered.

You can also have this interchange with your partner, by asking the same: Tell me what you did at work today.” Even if you do not understand everything being said, listen with interest and ask the occasional question; too many people seem to have lost the art of conversation. It is not that you are so much interested in the work, but in your partner’s life and how he or she is managing.

Now of course, stimulating conversation does depend a lot of the type of temperament you have. Sanguines, of course, naturally have the gift of the gab and can talk under water. But for a Melancholic partner, conversation may be really difficult, so if one partner is lacking in conversational skills, it will be up to the mate to draw that person out and be the one asking the questions to generate healthy conversation.

 

 

Personal Space Within the Relationship

Spain (188)Even though it is important to spend quality time together, it is equally important to have personal space within the relationship. It is important to give the other partner time to do something they like. If your mate loves to play golf but you have no desire to walk around a golf course hitting little white balls, or if you like to go to the movies, but your mate is not a movie buff and would rather do something different, then encourage each other to take time for your own personal space within the relationship. Establish a set time for this very purpose, if possible. You might not be able to do it every week, but make it at least once a month, and mark it out on the calendar so you know what to plan for. For example, if you don’t yet have children, you could make every last Friday night in the month, a time for girl’s and boy’s night out, where the females can catch up with their girlfriends, and the men can enjoy a night out with the boys.

Don’t mistake me here; this is not a time to date other people, but a time to enjoy preferred activities with other friends. Remember that trust is important in your relationship, and you will probably find that a fresh spark comes into your relationship as you will have different topics to discuss. However, If you try this, and then drill your partner to see what they did, whom they were with, and where they went, then the exercise has failed, and your personal space within the relationship will only turn into jealousy. If you don’t feel spiritually mature enough to try this, then don’t do it.

So many people don a false front when they come up against circumstances they can’t control or relationships they can’t handle. They wear masks that so gradually become a part of them, that they no longer know where the mask ends, and where they begin; the basic problem being one of rejection. Rejection is one of the most potent thoughts buried deep within the race mind. It surfaces and acts out in people’s lives in numerous ways.

Humanly speaking, nothing has a more profound influence on your behaviour than your inherited temperament. The combination of your parent’s genes and chromosomes at conception, which determined your basic temperament nine months before you drew breath, is largely responsible for your actions, reactions and emotional responses. This is because, prior to birth, you chose the parents who could give you those exact traits to help you develop and grow through the various experiences that you have chosen to encounter on your journey through the earth plane phase of your existence.

It will be your temperament that will allow you to have personal space within the relationship or not. I will be writing about this in more detail as we proceed through the articles.

Watch out for tomorrow’s post on ‘The Power of Touch’

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